Hello good people of blogland. It's been quite some time since I've blogged here. Not much new has been going on. I went to Atlanta for a weekend. I went to DC for a few days and hung out with a few of the great friends I've met via blogland. I've become addicted to funky sneakers. At the moment I am more than halfway through my first quarter of my Ph.D. My mommy got a new car. I got a new camera. I'm still jobless, and still not stressing about it.
I've got lots planned for the fall: a few trips to the DMV and a few trips to The A for school, birthday parties, and weddings. In the mean time of not having a job I plan on doing a lot of volunteering.
One interesting thing that has happened since the last time I blog... I don't have a best friend anymore. Yup. She up & quit me. Cold turkey, I can't, for the life of me, figure out why. The last I heard from her, I'd told her that I would talk to her later because I was driving and it was raining. She said ok. I sent her a text when I got to my hotel. No response. I went to sleep. So, I text her the next day around noon. No answer. I figure she is busy w/ the stroke benefit that she said her family was attending. All day. No response. I contacted her on Monday. "I hope everything is ok." No response. At this point I'm kinda pissed about it, but I keep my cool. On Tuesday I packed up my stuff and checked out of the hotel. Being that I was just a teeny bit worried (because we talk everyday), I rode by her job to see if she was there. And that's when I got the hint. Chick was ignoring me. I couldn't figure out why. I was like fine then. If that's how you want it, so be it. And I know good and well nothing life threatening has happened to her because she was on Facebook when I got home on Wednesday, with a status that says "I deserve better." I'm guessing her and the on again/off again boyfriend broke up again. The only thing that has to do with me is the fact that he and I have the same last name... Or maybe it's because I asked if It was cool if I went out to dinner with a friend while I was in the area (originally I was supposed to stay with her, but she didn't want me to be by myself in the condo while she was at work... Like I haven't done it several times before.) (Another friend had come to the area before and she was upset because the friend only came because she was interested in a guy who lived in the area and he wanted to take her out)... Or maybe she is jealous that the things I want come so easily to me. I didn't have to try hard to get into a Ph.D. program, but she's been met with roadblocks at every turn in trying to get into the military. (I think she's tried every branch except the Coast Guard...) Beyond that, I can't figure it out. I've always been there for her through all of the loser men, through family ish, and through career ish. I guess the time on our friendship was up. The season is over. The Bible says:
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven
Ecclesiastes 3:1Time's up. I'm not mad about it at all. I'm cool wit it.
Oh the picture? I'm just loving life :)
8 cmnt[s]:
To everything there is a season...and I guess her season was over. If she isn't mature enough to discuss with you whatever hangup she has, well...Just Keep Stridin'. Her loss.
I love that picutre.
Yup. I shall. My stride shall remain stank, regardless of her... More time for me to spend visiting my fabulous Tribe friends :)
WOW! That's so unfortunate. I do believe that was very immature on her part, though. Whatever issue she had, she should have been able to discuss it with you since you were friends. Her actions show you how much she valued your friendship. I'm with TD..it's her loss.
I'm feeling that pic, too! Puurty colors!
I firmly believe that I'm not meant to understand everything. This is one of those things.
Mama always said she was funny ackin'.
What happened to your teaching job? out of the loop mayhem?
well as for ur friend..nice to kno this kind of thing carries on into adulthood,this happens quite often & i was starting to think it was me..but im fabulous,so it isnt...but yeh i guess u hate nice things like friends..but at least she did it now instead of years down the ride when she is ur maid of honor & just doesnt show up to the wedding...
btw,reminds me of when i went to NC & after i came back u didnt talk to me anymore & were mean to me until u randomly decided u wanted hit me up on twitter...but i guess i shudnt take it personally, Dari didn't talk to me after that either,not to mention the fact that i barely knew u before hand anyway...hmm..maybe it IS me!! :-(
damn i knew i shudda made u a shirt
aw. i'm sorry. i mean she can't at least tell you she's not talking to you? i've had people do that to me before. it wasn't that they were ignoring me, they just grew too busy for me. but i've learned people like that ALWAYS come back. they always need you, not the other way around.
try not to let it bother you so much, because it's really her loss. just pray on it, if you are truly bestfriends it'll work itself out. friendship is forever, when it's real.
as for you being a bum. ay, if you're making it & happy..then nothing wrong with that. good luck w/ school...half way through is a big accomplishment. i know so many people who can't get halfway through the front door on the first day w/o giving up or switching plans.
@narcissist: I'm not stressing about her at all. In all honesty, I think I was the more supportive of the two of us. It kinda was a lopsided friendship. I am just peachy about it :)
I'm gonna be like the dude on Kanye's CDs. My degrees will keep me warm at night... I'll will them to my children. LOL
Well, that's too bad about your best friend. It sounds like a jealousy issue. Maybe. I know a few people who if you don't give them the attention they want, they will ignore you and be mad until you are hanging from their pant leg wondering why they won't talk to you.
They want you to focus all of your attention kissing ass to them. Not having it here.
I've actually dropped a few friends because they were draining.
Congrats on being halfway through school and on having a new car withonly 9000 miles. I didn't get my first new car until a couple of years ago. Even then, it still had 16000 on it when I bought it so it isn't technically new.
P.S. I added you to my blog roll.
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